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💜💛💜 From @sparklejams: "Reading something along these lines a few years ago really helped me break the cycle of dieting, restriction, and bingeing. It finally clicked in my brain – moving me from “body positive but still actively trying/secretly hoping to lose weight” to fat liberation, HAES, and the healing freedom of a truly weight neutral philosophy.⠀
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If thinness and weight loss were rendered neutral and unremarkable – if it wouldn’t earn you a compliment, if it wouldn’t get you an audition, if it didn’t guarantee better care from most doctors, if it didn’t reward you with a look up and down from men in power – would you still strive for it? Think about it constantly? Wish for it? Idealize it as a solution to health and wealth and intimacy?"⠀
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[image description: written on a bright blue background is the following message highlighted in yellow and orange ombre: "I am not going to compliment your weight loss. I am not going to comment on your weight gain. Your weight fluctuations, in every iteration, are deeply human, terrifically ordinary, and absolutely devoid of moral implication."]⠀
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#TheBodyIsNotAnApology #TBINAA
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Parenting in general is hard work. It can be hard physically: running from place to place, changing diapers, doing more laundry than a laundromat, and not getting enough sleep. And it’s also hard emotionally.
Kids test every boundary and push every button we have, intentionally or not. And when it comes to food, they bring up all of our “stuff” in that realm too.
When they don’t eat something it can feel like they’re doing it to us, like they want us to slave non stop for no pay, or that they just want to see our reaction. It’s hard to stay calm and not lose it.
It’s also hard to watch them behave with food in ways we fear about ourselves. We might fear we’ll never stop eating if we don’t put limits on our own intake. Or that we'll only eat “junk food” if we don’t force ourselves to eat vegetables. Or that if we didn’t have a “no sugar during the week” policy, we would eat ice cream every night.
If we worry we have an insatiable sweet tooth or unstoppable appetite, when we see our children eat dessert quickly or more than we think is necessary, it’s going to bring up all of our own fears about who we are with food.
Then we react, or we churn inside, and they notice. They feel our energy. They take in our stuff. They feel like they’re wrong. They can’t be trusted with food. Or they worry we’re going to limit their food or force them to eat certain things.
If this is you, it’s ok. Know you’re doing your best with the tools you have today. And if you know this is you, that means you’re aware!! That in itself is huge! Without awareness, there is no change. With awareness you have a choice.
If your children are bringing up stuff in you, you deserve to work on healing your own relationship with food, for YOU and them. It might take some time to shift what is deeply rooted, but it is NEVER too late.
And if you need support with this, know there are resources. Send me an email or schedule your free 15 minute call, we would love to support you 💗
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